"Here on earth, you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world. " -John 16:33, NLT
I think my Mom showed this passage to me once...or a passage similar to this. it was when she was really frustrated with my little brother (Vinh) because he was moving out of the house. He's going to school at De Anza and lived at home while doing so. I built a room in the backyard when I was still in High School to have my own space. Once I moved out, he moved in and started having parties there every so often. These parties involved hookah and drinking...a lot of drinking in which his friends would puke all over the floor. After a year...2 years? of this, my parents asked him to stop, and to move back into a room in the house, but he refused and moved out. This was a really hard time for my parents because they really just want the best for him you know? I mean, party, but don't overdo it you know? Be respectful to the house and to the parents...but I guess he wanted his freedom and that's what he got. At the age that he's at (almost 20) there's really nothing we can do. He needs to be free...to learn and to grow up for himself. All we can do is be sure he knows that we're there for him if he ever needs anything. Granted, i haven't been the best big brother, I hope its not too late to at least let him know that I'm there for him. My Mom sees this whole ordeal as one of her trials and sorrows. This passage is powerful in a sense that whatever the trials may be...Jesus has overcome the world...overcome EVERYTHING. That no matter what happens, he's there to help us get through it. He's there whether we know it or not, and he's watching over Vinh...wether he's drinking or dancing or smoking, waiting for him to start going to church again...and waiting for him, along with my mom and dad, to come home again..
edit: Now that I think about it, the passage she showed me was something more along the lines of...suffer now, and then enjoy eternal happiness in heaven. When I read it, I really didn't agree with it at all...It seemed as if that passage gave my mom a reason to just submit to the sorrows of this life, and gives her longing to wait for "eternal life" later in heaven. Iono...it was just unsettling for me, because the life that we have now, we should live to the fullest, challenge everything...waiting for it to end and passing it off as required suffering just doesn't make sense..
edit again: I just bought my mom a photo scanner so we can scan our old pictures..here are some of Vinh back in the day..haha what a cute kid (except for the calling me fat part)